Today, we celebrate ten years of marriage. Through the last ten years, I've been able to witness the integrity, God fearing character, and wisdom of my husband. Not only has he shown such great leadership qualities, but he has been extremely wise in leading our family and our finances. Though our marriage is no where near perfect, I can definitely say that it has been a great ride, and I love doing life with this man that God has given me.
When we first got married I had some expectations of how our marriage would look after ten years. And you know what? It looks a lot different than I thought it would. I thought that at this point we would be living in our dream house, and that I'd be a gourmet chef. Well, we aren't living in our dream house yet, and I'm definitely not a gourmet chef (although I've improved!). All jokes aside, our journey to where we are looks a lot different than I thought it would. I realized that the day to day actions in marriage don't always come easy, and we had to make it a point to be intentional with our actions.
Being intentional is deliberately putting the other's needs in front of your own. It's not just saying "I love you", but choosing to love when the other person isn't so lovable. It's not just being kind during the good days, but being patient & kind during the hard days.
Being intentional doesn't always come easy. After having kids, we've had to become a lot more deliberate about scheduling date nights, and one on one time. One thing that my husband Matt has been so great about being intentional about is calling me during his work day, to see how my day is going. Even if he is having a crazy day at work, he makes it a point to see how I'm doing, and ask how the kids are doing. When he gets home from work, we usually will take a few minutes, and ask about each others day. It's usually a chaotic time of day, and the kids can be super needy. But taking a moment to catch up, is sometimes just what we need before we unwind before the evening.
We've definitely had to learn how to be more intentional over time. It's been a constant learning process, and there's been times when we've let our stubbornness take over.
I know that life is bound to bring some challenges and trials, but I'm so blessed to be able to go through the good and the bad with this guy by my side.
"I found the one whom my soul loves."
Song of Solomon 3:4
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